Why You Struggle to Apologize (and What It’s Costing Your Relationships)
This Is How You Think - Mindset Habits for Personal Growth
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Most people who never learned how to apologize don't even realize that's the problem. I grew up in a Korean household where apologies never happened, so I spent years refusing to apologize without understanding what that was doing to my relationships.
In this episode, I'm getting into why some people genuinely can't apologize, why over-apologizing does just as much damage, and what shifted for me when I finally stopped holding back.
In this episode:
- Growing up without any model of what a healthy apology looks like
- How being punished into saying sorry as a kid turned apologies into a shame trigger
- The moment in my relationship when I realized accountability wasn't optional
- The metaphor I use to think about what apologies are actually for
- Over-apologizing and why so many women are quietly burning their credibility
- How my parents, in their 70s, started doing something I never thought they'd do
- What changed across all of my relationships once I stopped withholding apologies
If you've ever struggled to say sorry, or you're waiting on an apology you might never get, this one's for you.
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